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| assertive communication in relationships: The Assertiveness Guide for Women Julie de Azevedo Hanks, 2016-08-01 Isn’t it time you took a stand? Many women struggle with assertiveness, but if you’re prone to anxiety and avoidance, it is especially difficult. Grounded in attachment theory, this essential guide will help you identify your thoughts and feelings, balance your emotions, communicate your needs, and set healthy boundaries to improve your life. When you’re assertive, you’re able to communicate your needs and wishes clearly while respecting yourself and anyone else involved in the interaction. But when you aren’t assertive, you may stop yourself from saying anything when your needs aren’t being met, or end up lashing out in hostile or hurtful ways. People with different attachment styles struggle with being assertive for different reasons, and even women with a secure attachment style may have difficulty expressing emotion when faced with challenging circumstances. Using strategies based in mindfulness, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), The Assertiveness Guide for Women can help you understand the attachment styles that keep you from asserting yourself. You’ll learn about the three communication stances—from the passive Doormat to the aggressive (or passive-aggressive) Sword to the assertive Lantern—and find practical examples that show you how to apply your new communication and emotional awareness skills in your own life. Rather than being caught in a cycle of rumination and regret when you’re unable to express yourself or even acknowledge your own needs, you’ll be ready to assert yourself and get what you want. Whether you’re anxious and overwhelmed by the intensity of your emotions, avoidant and struggle to identify your emotions, or otherwise have difficulty expressing yourself, this book will help you become more aware of your own thoughts and feelings, and empower you to ask for what you need, set boundaries, and speak your truth for a more fulfilling life. |
| assertive communication in relationships: The Self-Aware Parent Fran Walfish, 2010-12-07 A healthy relationship based on mutual trust is every parent's wish. The bond between infant and parent is a natural phenomenon, but as children reach their preteens and form their own personalities, fireworks between the child and parent can ensue. Drawing on 20 years of clinical experience and new theories on attachment, family therapist and consultant to Parents magazine Dr. Fran Walfish argues that parents need to distinguish their own personality types in order to make more informed decisions about how they interact and raise their own children. This step-by-step guide shows parents: * how to recognize the strength and weaknesses of your parenting style and how it affects your child; * the ways your style might clash with your child's nature, and how to negotiate a common ground; * the vital importance of establishing trust with a preteen to better prepare for turbulent teen years. Written with warmth, authority, and wit, Dr. Walfish holds a gentle mirror up to parents and helps them understand themselves in order to create a closer relationship with their child. |
| assertive communication in relationships: Relationships Richard H. Pfeiffer, 2010-04-20 This is a clear and concise booklet (Essential Relationship Series) containing essential and innovative help for anyone wanting to learn how to be more assertive in a relationship. Passivity and passive-aggressiveness between partners inevitably leads to frustration and conflict requiring interpersonal skills and concepts. The booklet offers effective and proven ways to improve assertiveness skills in relationships and will be of help to many. |
| assertive communication in relationships: The Assertiveness Workbook Randy J. Paterson, 2022-09-01 Stand up and be heard! With more than 100,000 copies sold, this fully revised and updated self-help classic by psychologist Randy J. Paterson—author of How to Be Miserable—will help you get started today. Do you feel uncomfortable in situations where you disagree with others? Do you struggle to express your opinions or assert your boundaries? If you’ve ever felt paralyzed by confrontation, or have bitten your tongue rather than offer an opposing point of view, you know that a lack of assertiveness can leave you feeling marginalized and powerless. Assertiveness is a critical skill that not only influences your professional success, but also your personal happiness! So, how can you make sure your voice is heard? The Assertiveness Workbook contains powerfully effective skills grounded in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) to help you communicate more effectively, improve social interactions, and express yourself with confidence and clarity. You’ll learn how to set and maintain personal boundaries while staying connected, and discover ways to be more genuine and open in your relationships. Finally, you’ll learn to defend yourself calmly if you’re unfairly criticized or asked to submit to unreasonable requests. Fully revised and updated—this new edition includes information on the impact of social media, mini-dialogs to help you navigate tricky social interactions, and skills to shift your behaviors to be more assertive—so you can improve your communication skills, and your life! |
| assertive communication in relationships: The Couple Checkup David H. Olson, Amy Olson-Sigg, Peter J. Larson, 2008-06-29 A book and online profile that identifies a couple's strengths to help them build a more vital relationship. Based on an unprecedented national survey of 50,000 marriages, The Couple Checkup presents the principles for creating a successful couple relationship. The free online profile includes fifteen to twenty categories that are customized based on the relationship stage-whether dating, engaged, or married-the age, and whether or not children are involved. The book also includes the SCOPE Personality Profile and the Couple and Family Map of the relationship. Each chapter of the book matches a category in the free individual profile. While the book stands on its own, using the Couple Checkup with the book provides the maximum benefit. In addition, each chapter contains couple exercises to help build couple strengths in a variety of areas. |
| assertive communication in relationships: Your Perfect Right Robert Alberti, Michael Emmons, 2017-03-01 Your Perfect Right—the leading assertiveness guide with over 1.3 million copies sold—is now fully updated and revised. This indispensable guide to equal-relationship assertiveness is packed with step-by-step exercises, tips, and skills to help you express yourself effectively. Are you comfortable starting a conversation with strangers at a party? Do you sometimes feel ineffective in making your needs clear? Do you have difficulty saying no to persuasive people? Everyone needs a little help getting along with others. Assertiveness is a key social skill, as well as a tool for making your relationships more equal. Learning to respond more effectively to others can help you reduce stress and increase your sense of self-worth. In this fully updated and revised tenth edition, you’ll learn practical advice on dealing with difficult people, handling criticism, and expressing your feelings. You’ll also discover how to use humor in conflict resolution, ways to clarify others’ intentions, and how to distinguish between encouraging and discouraging communication habits. This edition also includes a new introduction by coauthor Robert Alberti, in addition to research and information on the subjects of anger and interpersonal communication. Assertiveness is an alternative to personal powerlessness or manipulation. The program in this book will help you develop effective ways to express yourself, maintain your self-respect, and show respect for others. This is not a “me-first” book—it's all about equal-relationship assertiveness! |
| assertive communication in relationships: People Skills Robert Bolton, 2011-11-29 A wall of silent resentment shuts you off from someone you love....You listen to an argument in which neither party seems to hear the other....Your mind drifts to other matters when people talk to you.... People Skills is a communication-skills handbook that can help you eliminate these and other communication problems. Author Robert Bolton describes the twelve most common communication barriers, showing how these roadblocks damage relationships by increasing defensiveness, aggressiveness, or dependency. He explains how to acquire the ability to listen, assert yourself, resolve conflicts, and work out problems with others. These are skills that will help you communicate calmly, even in stressful emotionally charged situations. People Skills will show you * How to get your needs met using simple assertion techniques * How body language often speaks louder than words * How to use silence as a valuable communication tool * How to de-escalate family disputes, lovers' quarrels, and other heated arguments Both thought-provoking and practical, People Skills is filled with workable ideas that you can use to improve your communication in meaningful ways, every day. |
| assertive communication in relationships: The Keys to Being Brilliantly Confident and More Assertive Richard Banks, 2020-06-25 All of us can think of times when we know we should speak up, but we don't. When we feel like we're being taken advantage of, but we just accept it. Later, we kick ourselves, thinking: If only I would have said something! If this sounds like you, look no further! This book serves as a complete guide to understanding what assertiveness is and how to become more assertive in your own life. Using practical exercises and techniques it will teach you how to stand up for what you believe in, ask for what you want, and say no to what you don't want in a way that's confident, calm, and respectful. This book will also show you how to increase your self-confidence and your self-worth. This book is for: People who would like to massively boost their assertiveness People who would like to develop better communication skills People who would like to learn how to deal with conflicts People who would like to communicate with confidence and charisma New managers who need to be more assertive with their team. Emerging leaders who want to communicate more clearly and confidently. Introverted people who need to set boundaries and say no. Passive communicators who want to speak more directly and honestly. People who have difficulty protecting their time, priorities, and goals. People who need to set stronger boundaries. People who are tired of being a doormat and taking a passive role in relationships People who are afraid of standing up for themselves The push over, nice guy The Yes man People who are tired of being controlled and dominated People who struggle with knowing their worth. This book will teach you the following: What is Assertiveness The 4 Communication Styles How to be an Assertive Communicator How to Communicate with Confidence and Charisma Highly Effective Techniques to Deal with Any Conflict in Your Personal & Professional Life How to Have an Assertive Body Language How to Speak Up, Share Your Ideas & Opinions in A Persuasive, Calm & Positive Way How to express your feelings, opinions and wants honestly, clearly, and respectfully How to Say no and establish boundaries without Looking Selfish How to Reduce Negative Emotions & Anxiety How to Provide Feedback to Others While Looking Good & Friendly How to Reduce Discomfort When Talking to People How to Overcome your fears and limiting beliefs about being assertive How to better manage conflict and difficult conversations How to make your job and life less stressful because you know how to protect your time, priorities and goals Learning how to be more assertive can massively improve your relationships and your overall sense of self-confidence. When you can express yourself assertively and speak up for yourself, other people will respect you more. Even more importantly, you will respect yourself more. Once you start improving your assertiveness, incredible things will happen in your life. This book will show you how to get more out of your life and feel better about yourself by helping you to become more assertive without coming across as bossy or forceful! |
| assertive communication in relationships: The 4 Habits of Joy-Filled Marriages Marcus Warner, Chris M. Coursey, 2019-04-02 What separates happy marriages from miserable ones? Surprisingly, it’s not healthy communication. It’s not conflict resolution skills. It’s actually the size of the marriage’s joy gap . Joy Gap/joi gap/ (n.)-1. The length of time between moments of shared joy When the joy gap gets bigger, problems are more likely to overwhelm you, resentment creeps in, and you start to feel distant and alone in your marriage. When the joy gap is smaller, you regularly feel connected and happy, problems feel manageable, and your marriage becomes a reliable source of joy. But how do you ensure that you’re experiencing joy regularly? Marcus Warner and Chris Coursey have studied relationships (and neuroscience) and discovered four habits that keep joy regular and problems small. Some couples do them naturally, but anyone can learn. That’s why each chapter includes 15-minute exercises that boost joy and re-train your brain to make joy your default setting. You’ll learn new skills including how to: return to joy more quickly after disconnection create stronger bonds and elongate times of happiness boost your enjoyment of physical and emotional intimacy Find out what your marriage looks like after a little work and a whole lot of joy. |
| assertive communication in relationships: When I Say No, I Feel Guilty Manuel J. Smith, 2011-01-12 The best-seller that helps you say: I just said 'no' and I don't feel guilty! Are you letting your kids get away with murder? Are you allowing your mother-in-law to impose her will on you? Are you embarrassed by praise or crushed by criticism? Are you having trouble coping with people? Learn the answers in When I Say No, I Feel Guilty, the best-seller with revolutionary new techniques for getting your own way. |
| assertive communication in relationships: Speaking the Truth in Love Ruth N. Koch, Kenneth C. Haugk, 1992 |
| assertive communication in relationships: High Octane Women Sherrie Bourg Carter, M.D., 2011-02-02 In this authoritative, well-researched book, full of helpful insights and practical advice, a psychologist draws on more than 15 years experience and expertise in stress management to explore the unique challenges that high-achieving women face and how they can avoid burnout. |
| assertive communication in relationships: Assertive Confident Communication Skills Lisa Reynolds, Ryan Ledger, 2020-02-11 Uncover the hidden secrets of excellent communication skills - learn how to influence people, handle conflicts, be confident in any social situation and strengthen relationships with this definitive guide to interpersonal communication. In this book, Ryan Ledger and Lisa Reynolds demystify the art of charisma and communication. This best-selling book will guide you, step-by-step, in how to develop razor-sharp communication skills. A unique guide in regards to it actually being realistic yet incredibly effective... Colin Jenkison, Author Comprehensive, insightful and full of actionable practical advice, this guide will show you how to get rid of harmful communication quirks while equipping you with tools that will help you succeed in your relationships, existing and new, work and social. The definite guide to modern day communication skills. Rebecca Freeman, London Express The 2020 updated version is available now on Kindle, Print and Audiobook. |
| assertive communication in relationships: Positive Intelligence Shirzad Chamine, 2012 Chamine exposes how your mind is sabotaging you and keeping your from achieving your true potential. He shows you how to take concrete steps to unleash the vast, untapped powers of your mind. |
| assertive communication in relationships: Divorce Busting Michele Weiner Davis, 1993-02 A step-by-step approach to making your marriage loving again. |
| assertive communication in relationships: Assertiveness Judy Murphy, 2011-11-21 |
| assertive communication in relationships: Assertiveness Training Zac M Cruz, 2020-03-04 Do you feel angry and frustrated when saying yes to something that you'd rather say no to? Have you felt that your opinion isn't worth as much as that of others in the same room as you? Then you need to keep reading... The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything. - Warren Buffett Sometimes, it can be nerve-wracking or just plain uncomfortable to say no. Especially when dealing with our loved ones or at the workplace. Unfortunately, it can be extremely damaging, especially over the long-term, to be constantly doing things that we don't want to do, or saying yes when deep down we're longing to be able to say no whenever we'd like to. The fear of disappointing others can be so intense, that most people live their lives terrified of what others will think if they speak up their thoughts or they say no to requests they don't want to do. The reality is that people that can communicate their thoughts, opinions, and wants are the ones that can succeed the most and reach their goals and objectives. Most people believe that you are either born assertive or you aren't. But how much truth is in this? Fortunately, even if you currently consider yourself to be the LEAST assertive person you know of, there is a LOT that you can do to turn your life around completely. In this book, you'll discover: The key difference that sets apart assertive people from passive or aggressive people. Basic body language hacks that everyone can immediately apply to be perceived as more confident. A proven roadmap to increase your sense of confidence when interacting with others. Crucial mistakes to avoid that make most people fail and act either too passively or too aggressively. Safe strategies to become more assertive in business or at the workplace so that you can reach your career goals quicker. Discover how women can become more assertive without being judged negatively. How to quickly improve communication in a relationship so that both sides end up winning. And much more.. There is a good wealth of scientific research that has shown how being assertive lowers stress and anxiety levels. It can also have a profound effect on lowering depression and other mood disorders. Being more assertive can also help you have better control of your emotions and thoughts during all time. Years of studying how our behavior patterns work in society has now made assertiveness training so easy-to-follow that even if you are the shyest person you can think of, you can turn your life around in no time.. So if you want to make sure that you don't ever say yes to things you don't want to do ever again, then scroll up and click the Add to Cart button now! |
| assertive communication in relationships: The Five Love Languages Gary Chapman, 2009-12-17 Marriage should be based on love, right? But does it seem as though you and your spouse are speaking two different languages? #1 New York Times bestselling author Dr. Gary Chapman guides couples in identifying, understanding, and speaking their spouse's primary love language-quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, or physical touch. By learning the five love languages, you and your spouse will discover your unique love languages and learn practical steps in truly loving each other. Chapters are categorized by love language for easy reference, and each one ends with simple steps to express a specific language to your spouse and guide your marriage in the right direction. A newly designed love languages assessment will help you understand and strengthen your relationship. You can build a lasting, loving marriage together. Gary Chapman hosts a nationally syndicated daily radio program called A Love Language Minute that can be heard on more than 150 radio stations as well as the weekly syndicated program Building Relationships with Gary Chapman, which can both be heard on fivelovelanguages.com. The Five Love Languages is a consistent New York Times bestseller - with over 5 million copies sold and translated into 38 languages. This book is a sales phenomenon, with each year outselling the prior for 16 years running! |
| assertive communication in relationships: Bossed Up Emilie Aries, 2019-05-21 In this candid, refreshing guide for young women to take with us as we run the world, Emilie Aries shows you how to own your power, know your worth, and design your career and life accordingly. Young women today face an uncertain job market, the pressure to ascend at all costs, and a fear of burning out. But the landscape is changing, and women are taking an assertive role in shaping our careers and lives, while investing more and more in our community of support. Bossed Up teaches you how to: Break out of the martyrdom mindset, and cultivate your Boss Identity by getting clear on what you really want for your career and life without apology; Hone the self-advocacy skills necessary for success; Understand the differences between being assertive (which is part of being a leader) and being aggressive (which is more like being a bully) - and how that clarity can transform your trajectory; Beat burnout by identifying how the warning signs may be showing up in your life and how to prioritize bringing more rest, purpose, agency, and community to your day-to-day life; Unpack the steps to cultivating something more than just confidence; a boss identity, which will establish your ability to be the boss of your life no matter what comes your way. Drawing from timely research, and with personal stories, and spotlights on a diverse group of women from the Bossed Up community, this book will show you how to craft a happy, healthy, and sustainable career path you'll love. |
| assertive communication in relationships: The Assertive Advantage Sharon Anthony Bower, 1994 |
| assertive communication in relationships: Alpha Assertiveness Guide for Men and Women Gerard Shaw, Tbd, 2020-03-07 Become a Proactive, Assertive Person That Everyone Respects and Learn How to Say No! You just can't seem to catch a break. You work hard every day, yet can't get a raise or a promotion. You're kind to your colleagues but you still feel like they don't respect you. If someone asks you do to something for them, you'll undoubtedly say YES, even if you don't want to. Do you feel as if life is punishing you and it simply isn't being fair? It's not a case of bad luck, karma or destiny. If you find it hard to enjoy yourself when something good happens, if you're constantly on alert in case something bad comes your way, you need to go through a process of self-empowerment. Sometimes, the solutions to our problems lie in self-retrospective. This workbook will guide you through a detailed self-assessment process, and you might be surprised of the results. If you're finding it hard to express yourself, whether in work environment or at home and if you feel like your voice is not loud enough, you need to transform yourself into a more assertive person. This book will help you gain confidence, upgrade your communication skills and reveal the secret techniques of winners! It does not mean you have to change your identity or personality. It simply means you should focus on your strengths. This book will help you with that, but also discover the assertive, more confident side of your personality. A lot of us struggle with criticism, whether we're on the giving or receiving side. Use this guide to learn how to handle being criticized, but also how to criticize someone in a constructive way. Here's what you get with this workbook: Self-assessment questionnaires and activities to discover your personal style of communicating A guide on how to enhance your strength and use them to your advantage in everyday situations Attested methods to develop assertive behavior and build confidence A detailed guide on how to build a positive self-image A list of famous assertive individuals and what you can learn from them Numerous examples of how to be assertive in everyday situations A guide to conquering the fear of conflict A deep guide on how to say NO Techniques for personal empowerment Even if you feel like you're confident enough to express yourself clearly, you should consider using this workbook to advance your skills further. After all, assertiveness is a communication skill and as such can be trained and upgraded. If you've ever felt like you're not getting enough respect, you should use this book to test your behavioral patterns and find a solution. Do you want to gain confidence, become a more assertive person, be able to handle a criticism and gain respect you deserve? Scroll up, click on 'Buy Now with 1-Click' and discover a secret to professional and personal success! |
| assertive communication in relationships: The Smart Girl's Guide to Getting What You Want Mary Hartley, 2014-04-22 Do you feel like you’re not heard but you don’t want to have to scream? Personal development coach Mary Hartley explains the secrets of assertiveness – of how to communicate with other people in ways that are confident, effective – but also considerate. Mary reveals the simple steps you can take to help you relate to other people honestly and openly in every area of your life – at work, with your friends and family and in your love life. You will discover that you can be true to yourself and your needs without hurting or diminishing other people. • What assertiveness is and why it matters • How to avoid aggression, passivity and manipulation • Tips for handling tricky situations including put-downs and dealing with bullies • Mastering assertive body language and communication Packed with practical strategies and exercises, this book will show you how to be confident, assured and proactive – with style. |
| assertive communication in relationships: ASSERTIVE COMMUNICATION Roberto Vingelli, 2021-06-09 This Book Show You Exactly How To Master The Art Of Assertive Communication Without Feeling Like You Are Trying Too Hard! |
| assertive communication in relationships: What Makes Love Last? John Gottman, John Mordechai Gottman, Nan Silver, 2013-09-10 One of the foremost relationship experts at work today offers creative insight on building trust and avoiding betrayal, helping readers to decode the mysteries of healthy love and relationships-- |
| assertive communication in relationships: We Need to Talk Celeste Headlee, 2017-09-19 “WE NEED TO TALK.” In this urgent and insightful book, public radio journalist Celeste Headlee shows us how to bridge what divides us--by having real conversations BASED ON THE TED TALK WITH OVER 10 MILLION VIEWS NPR's Best Books of 2017 Winner of the 2017 Silver Nautilus Award in Relationships & Communication “We Need to Talk is an important read for a conversationally-challenged, disconnected age. Headlee is a talented, honest storyteller, and her advice has helped me become a better spouse, friend, and mother.” (Jessica Lahey, author of New York Times bestseller The Gift of Failure) Today most of us communicate from behind electronic screens, and studies show that Americans feel less connected and more divided than ever before. The blame for some of this disconnect can be attributed to our political landscape, but the erosion of our conversational skills as a society lies with us as individuals. And the only way forward, says Headlee, is to start talking to each other. In We Need to Talk, she outlines the strategies that have made her a better conversationalist—and offers simple tools that can improve anyone’s communication. For example: BE THERE OR GO ELSEWHERE. Human beings are incapable of multitasking, and this is especially true of tasks that involve language. Think you can type up a few emails while on a business call, or hold a conversation with your child while texting your spouse? Think again. CHECK YOUR BIAS. The belief that your intelligence protects you from erroneous assumptions can end up making you more vulnerable to them. We all have blind spots that affect the way we view others. Check your bias before you judge someone else. HIDE YOUR PHONE. Don’t just put down your phone, put it away. New research suggests that the mere presence of a cell phone can negatively impact the quality of a conversation. Whether you’re struggling to communicate with your kid’s teacher at school, an employee at work, or the people you love the most—Headlee offers smart strategies that can help us all have conversations that matter. |
| assertive communication in relationships: How to Communicate Matthew McKay, Martha Davis, Patrick Fanning, 2009 |
| assertive communication in relationships: The Guide to Compassionate Assertiveness Sherrie Mansfield Vavrichek, 2012-08-01 Speaking up for yourself has benefits, but it has costs, too. Many people who struggle with assertiveness are paralyzed by worries that they’ll seem mean, petty, or that they will hurt the other person’s feelings. Even though they want to speak up, they may keep their true needs and opinions to themselves because of these fears—eventually building stress, resentment, and alienation. The Guide to Compassionate Assertiveness does not require that readers ignore the needs of others and focus solely on their own desires. Rather, this unique blend of cognitive behavioral therapy-based assertiveness training and Buddhist psychology helps readers practice assertiveness skills while caring deeply about the welfare of others. This book helps readers develop a form of assertiveness that emphasizes collaboration, negotiation, and compromise. It focuses on speaking up for the benefit of others and speaking up for the relationship, not just one’s own needs. In this way, readers learn to assert their needs in ways that match their compassionate value systems. This book is the ideal assertiveness guide for those who are afraid of rejection, have a deep concern for how others perceive them, often feel judged by others, or have difficulty expressing their feelings and needs. Readers learn to apply assertiveness skills in all domains of their lives, including in romantic relationships, as parents, at work, and in social settings. |
| assertive communication in relationships: The Art of Everyday Assertiveness Patrick King, 2019-10-22 Stand your ground without guilt, fear, or awkward tension. Finally get what you deserve and stop letting it slide. Who is making your daily choices for you? Is it you? Make sure you possess the everyday assertiveness to get what you want and resist the pressure to reject what you don't want. You've put yourself last your entire life. It's time for that to change. Stop enabling, sacrificing your needs, people pleasing, and being so agreeable. The Art of Everyday Assertiveness is a guide for the chronically nice, overwhelmed, and accommodating. It is a deep psychological dive into the beliefs that makes us lack assertiveness, and how to systematically combat and replace compulsions with healthy mindsets. This is a book that stands apart from others because of the plethora of real life examples and solutions. If your problem is assertiveness, you'll find the step by step answer in this book - included is an Assertiveness Action Plan unlike any other. Gain respect, set boundaries, and ask for what you really want. Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience. He's also a recovering people pleaser who knows exactly how it feels to feel unable to speak his mind. How to decisively say NO and reclaim your time and energy Stop putting others first and being taken advantage of. -A wide variety of ways to say no - without tension or awkwardness. -Beating the subconscious beliefs that make you a compliant doormat. -How to set healthy boundaries and protect yourself from others. -How to ask for exactly what you want, when you want it. -The instinct to over-apologize and how to fix it. Stop being a helpaholic and start treating yourself better. Assertiveness is the first step to creating the life you want - not the life someone else wants for you, or taking care of someone else's to-do list. You're not responsible for other people's happiness. But you are responsible for yours. What makes you happy? Do that. What makes you unhappy? Avoid that. If other people interfere with this simple credo, assertiveness is what will save the day. |
| assertive communication in relationships: DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets Marsha M. Linehan, 2014-10-28 Featuring more than 225 user-friendly handouts and worksheets, this is an essential resource for clients learning dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) skills, and those who treat them. All of the handouts and worksheets discussed in Marsha M. Linehan's DBT Skills Training Manual, Second Edition, are provided, together with brief introductions to each module written expressly for clients. Originally developed to treat borderline personality disorder, DBT has been demonstrated effective in treatment of a wide range of psychological and emotional problems. No single skills training program will include all of the handouts and worksheets in this book; clients get quick, easy access to the tools recommended to meet their particular needs. The 8 1/2 x 11 format and spiral binding facilitate photocopying. Purchasers also get access to a webpage where they can download and print additional copies of the handouts and worksheets. Mental health professionals, see also the author's DBT Skills Training Manual, Second Edition, which provides complete instructions for teaching the skills. Also available: Cognitive-Behavioral Treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder, the authoritative presentation of DBT, and Linehan's instructive skills training DVDs for clients--Crisis Survival Skills: Part One and This One Moment. |
| assertive communication in relationships: Develop Your Assertiveness Sue Bishop, 2013-03-03 Develop Your Assertiveness offers simple techniques that will help you become more aware of your strengths and weaknesses, so that you can learn how best to modify your behaviour in social and business interactions. Being more confident and learning how best to communicate with your colleagues will enable you to create win-win situations, thus improving your career prospects and enhancing your social life. Packed with examples and exercises, this essential guide covers topics such as: the importance of choice of behaviour; tension control; self awareness and self-esteem; relationships; making and refusing requests; dealing with problem people; tricky situations; assertiveness online. Exercises and activities in Develop your Assertiveness enable you to measure your progress and reach your goals. |
| assertive communication in relationships: Creating Real Relationships Richard H. Pfeiffer, 2000-10-14 Can two people develop a relationship that will support, encourage, and nurture their real self? Can the hope of being understood, known, and truly accepted become a reality? Can a real relationship heal the wounds and emotional deficits received in early life? The search for meaning is the journey of expressing one's real self. Pfeiffer describes how two partners can seek to develop a relationship in which both find support for the expression of their real self. Partners who make a real relationship work have certain skills. They know and practice core interpersonal skills, which allows them to form a relationship that can endure, deepen, and grow. If you are or hope to be in an intimate relationship you will want to give this book to yourself and your partner. Creating Real Relationships is an inspiring guide that offers encouragement for those seeking more meaning and healthy closeness in their relationship. A real relationship provides its partners with the opportunity for personal growth, development of the real self, and emotional and spiritual healing. The author weaves professional knowledge with personal experience to show the reader how to overcome the power of difference and shame, which may threaten the level of relationship satisfaction. This essential book offers clear explanations, practical skills, insightful background, and a map for the healing journey possible in real relationships. |
| assertive communication in relationships: An Introduction to Communication Studies Sheila Steinberg, 2007 In this introductory textbook, the author contextualises approaches and theories on cornmunication studies by making use of local examples from the mass media, as well as relevant political and social experiences. The book is divided into two parts. The first provides students with a strong foundation in communication while the second focuses on the areas of specialisation within communication studies. Each chapter starts with the learning Outcomes and a short overview of the chapter. Students can monitor their learning by using the summaries and 'test yourself' questions at the end of every chapter. Scenarios provide examples of how the theory can be applied in practice. This makes for a learner-friendly and accessible book which will prove invaluable to Students and professionals alike. Beginner students majoring in Communication Studies, as well as those studying towards various degrees or qualifications where communication is a prerequisite will find this book useful. |
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| assertive communication in relationships: Creating Happy Relationships Richard Nelson-Jones, 1999-01-30 ′Relate counsellors interested in extending their learning about cognitive therapy will find this manual a comprehensive guide′- Jan Hobbs, Relate News ′An easy-to-read, comprehensive text which provides a practical guide to skills for starting, maintaining and cultivating successful relationships, whether of opposite sexes or the same sex′ - The Australian Journal of Counselling Psychology Creating Happy Relationships is written in a comfortable non-academic style, using simple everyday English, and incorporates recent research and theory. In addition to many vignettes of partners creating and cultivating happiness there are plenty of practical activities for improving partner skills. This book is a major resource for prospective partners, couples, for marriage preparation and counselling courses, and human communication and relationship education courses in schools, colleges and universities. |
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| assertive communication in relationships: The Surprising Power of Liberating Structures Henri Lipmanowicz, Keith McCandless, 2014-10-28 Smart leaders know that they would greatly increase productivity and innovation if only they could get everyone fully engaged. So do professors, facilitators and all changemakers. The challenge is how. Liberating Structures are novel, practical and no-nonsense methods to help you accomplish this goal with groups of any size. Prepare to be surprised by how simple and easy they are for anyone to use. This book shows you how with detailed descriptions for putting them into practice plus tips on how to get started and traps to avoid. It takes the design and facilitation methods experts use and puts them within reach of anyone in any organization or initiative, from the frontline to the C-suite. Part One: The Hidden Structure of Engagement will ground you with the conceptual framework and vocabulary of Liberating Structures. It contrasts Liberating Structures with conventional methods and shows the benefits of using them to transform the way people collaborate, learn, and discover solutions together. Part Two: Getting Started and Beyond offers guidelines for experimenting in a wide range of applications from small group interactions to system-wide initiatives: meetings, projects, problem solving, change initiatives, product launches, strategy development, etc. Part Three: Stories from the Field illustrates the endless possibilities Liberating Structures offer with stories from users around the world, in all types of organizations -- from healthcare to academic to military to global business enterprises, from judicial and legislative environments to R&D. Part Four: The Field Guide for Including, Engaging, and Unleashing Everyone describes how to use each of the 33 Liberating Structures with step-by-step explanations of what to do and what to expect. Discover today what Liberating Structures can do for you, without expensive investments, complicated training, or difficult restructuring. Liberate everyone's contributions -- all it takes is the determination to experiment. |
| assertive communication in relationships: Fierce Conversations (Revised and Updated) Susan Scott, 2004-01-06 Fully revised and updated—the national bestselling communication skills guide that will help you achieve personal and professional success one conversation at a time. The master teacher of positive change through powerful communication, Susan Scott wants you to succeed. To do that, she explains, you must transform everyday conversations at work and at home with effective ways to get your message across—and get what you want. In this guide, which includes a workbook and The Seven Principles of Fierce Conversations, Scott teaches you how to: • Overcome barriers to meaningful communication • Expand and enrich relationships with colleagues, friends, and family • Increase clarity and improve understanding • Handle strong emotions—on both sides of the table • Connect with colleagues, customers and family at a deep level Includes a Foreword by Ken Blanchard, the bestselling co-author of The One Minute Manager |
| assertive communication in relationships: RedRock Leadership Jeff Ruby, 2020-03-24 Today's businesses don't need bosses-they need leaders. Company success doesn't come from telling people what to do. True sustainable success is created from within, and to get there you need to transform your company culture. Jeff Ruby has a process that works. The RedRock Leadership method shows business leaders-from small businesses to Fortune 500 companies-how to double, triple, and even quadruple bottom-line results. Benefit from RedRock's game-changing lessons, including: How to leverage the power of emotions for your business, not against it. Why management alone is an outdated concept-and what to do about it. Understand the six differences between heroic leadership and collaborative leadership... and why collaborative leadership will take your company growth further. The unique four-point plan that starts with leaders and ripples down to your teams to revitalize growth and transform culture. ...plus even more tools, strategies, and step-by-step exercises from RedRock Leadership training programs that have helped strengthen 1,000's of business leaders around the world. Just because you are part of leadership doesn't mean you are a leader. Redefine what it means to be a leader with Jeff Ruby's authentic and insightful keys to collaborative leadership...and forge the path to success in business and in life. |
ASSERTIVE Definition & Meaning - Merriam-Webster
The meaning of ASSERTIVE is disposed to or characterized by bold or confident statements and behavior. How to use assertive in a sentence. Synonym Discussion of Assertive.
ASSERTIVE | English meaning - Cambridge Dictionary
ASSERTIVE definition: 1. Someone who is assertive behaves confidently and is not frightened to say what they want or…. Learn more.
Being assertive: Reduce stress, communicate better - Mayo Clinic
Jan 20, 2024 · Assertiveness can help you control stress and anger and improve coping skills. Recognize and learn assertive behavior and communication. Being assertive is a core …
Assertive Communication | Worksheet - Therapist Aid
Assertiveness is a communication style in which a person stands up for their own needs and beliefs, while also respecting the needs of others. Assertive communication is defined by …
Assertiveness - Psychology Today
Being assertive means speaking up for one’s rights without disrespecting anyone else’s. It involves managing stress, solving problems as they arise, and staying calm no matter how the …
ASSERTIVE Definition & Meaning | Dictionary.com
Assertive commonly means confident and direct when trying to get what one wants or saying what one wants to say. It can also mean aggressive, forceful, or having a tendency to make …
ASSERTIVE definition and meaning | Collins English Dictionary
An assertive person is not worried about showing his or her vulnerability and is more able to accept inadequacies in others.
Assertive - Definition, Meaning & Synonyms - Vocabulary.com
If you are upfront about what you want and bold in devising a plan that helps you get it, you could be described as assertive, meaning you act with authority and confidence. English offers many …
assertive adjective - Definition, pictures, pronunciation and usage ...
Definition of assertive adjective in Oxford Advanced Learner's Dictionary. Meaning, pronunciation, picture, example sentences, grammar, usage notes, synonyms and more.
Assertiveness - Wikipedia
Assertiveness is a method of critical thinking, where an individual speaks up in defense of their views or in light of erroneous information. Additionally, assertive people are capable of being …
ASSERTIVE Definition & Meaning - Merriam-Webster
The meaning of ASSERTIVE is disposed to or characterized by bold or confident statements and behavior. How to use assertive in a sentence. Synonym Discussion of Assertive.
ASSERTIVE | English meaning - Cambridge Dictionary
ASSERTIVE definition: 1. Someone who is assertive behaves confidently and is not frightened to say what they want or…. Learn more.
Being assertive: Reduce stress, communicate better - Mayo Clinic
Jan 20, 2024 · Assertiveness can help you control stress and anger and improve coping skills. Recognize and learn assertive behavior and communication. Being assertive is a core …
Assertive Communication | Worksheet - Therapist Aid
Assertiveness is a communication style in which a person stands up for their own needs and beliefs, while also respecting the needs of others. Assertive communication is defined by …
Assertiveness - Psychology Today
Being assertive means speaking up for one’s rights without disrespecting anyone else’s. It involves managing stress, solving problems as they arise, and staying calm no matter how the …
ASSERTIVE Definition & Meaning | Dictionary.com
Assertive commonly means confident and direct when trying to get what one wants or saying what one wants to say. It can also mean aggressive, forceful, or having a tendency to make …
ASSERTIVE definition and meaning | Collins English Dictionary
An assertive person is not worried about showing his or her vulnerability and is more able to accept inadequacies in others.
Assertive - Definition, Meaning & Synonyms - Vocabulary.com
If you are upfront about what you want and bold in devising a plan that helps you get it, you could be described as assertive, meaning you act with authority and confidence. English offers many …
assertive adjective - Definition, pictures, pronunciation and usage ...
Definition of assertive adjective in Oxford Advanced Learner's Dictionary. Meaning, pronunciation, picture, example sentences, grammar, usage notes, synonyms and more.
Assertiveness - Wikipedia
Assertiveness is a method of critical thinking, where an individual speaks up in defense of their views or in light of erroneous information. Additionally, assertive people are capable of being …
